Sample Refusal (Opt Out) Letters. This page has links to opt out letters for the tests New York STATE gives to 3rd-8th graders every spring.You can find the NY State testing schedule HERE and more answers to all your questions on our FAQ. Q: I have decided to opt my child out. Dear Parent or Guardian: <. I am asking more as a parent than a teacher. What are the implications of opting out of testing? Opting-out is the process of refusing to participate in state and district testing programs for grades 3-8. Parents can write and submit a refusal letter. New York State Allies for Public Education created sample opt out letters for parents to present to the school.